~ The First Cut Is The Deepest | Sheryl Crow ~
One of the most difficult challenges we face in our quest to be compassionate is dealing with conflict.Those we love most tend to be the ones most likely to engage us in sparring that cuts the deepest.
Why do we allow ourselves to use our harshest words and most acid tone of voice with the people we love most? Precisely because we love them most. We're counting on unconditional love.
We know we are likely to be forgiven. We feel close enough to let our true ugliness shine.
(Maya Talisman Frost)
The above quote pretty much says it all, but it is so ironic that we all seek that unconditional love from another person, yet these are the people who hurt us the most and we hurt back in return . . . or the other way around.The quote also begs to ponder the question about using our harshest words that we know will hurt the most. We should not want to hurt that person we love so much, yet we try so hard to inflict as much pain on them as we possibly can. Why can't rational thinking people be kinder to each other when dealing with conflict, even if we totally disagree about something.
It is one of the absurd oddities of life!