Wednesday, January 12, 2011

How do you show you care?

~ In Neon | Elton John ~

“Love is not only something you feel.
It is something you do.”
David Wilkerson

Every time there is a horrific tragedy that captures the national
 or worldwide stage, reported on 24/7, I can't help but think about
the following 
post I wrote back in 2007.

There are families whose loved one was lost forever and those
teetering on the edge of life.  Life is short.  Sometimes shorter
than we expect it to be.  We tend to think that we will be on
this earth forever.  We aren't.

Tragedies happen to someone else . . . 
isn't that what we think?

None of us is immune from tragedy . . . and death.

Now that I have found my "significant other" . . . again . . .
I catch myself worrying about this kind of stuff since
tragedy hit my life and it scares me to even think
about going through it again.

Rather than worry about something that hasn't happened,
I choose to be aware of how fragile life is . . . and how
beautiful and precious love shared with another is
and cherish that love for what it is . . . a gift from God.

In her book, ‘No Less Than Greatness,’ Mary Manin Morrissey speaks of a research study that explored how family members communicate with each other. Apparently, the most frequently spoken words between husbands, wives, sisters and brothers were “What’s on?” and “Move.”

She goes on to say, “We all desire great relationships but often settle for just getting by. Many of us have stopped questioning the fact that we may know fictitious TV families more intimately than we do our own.”

The most powerful force in our lives is our ability to love.
Indeed, it’s the most basic essence of who we are.
The whole idea of compassion is based on a
keen awareness of the other.
The whole purpose of life is to live by love.

Thomas Merton

Source: Higher Awareness

One of the most important messages I want to get across in my writing is to not wait until it is too late to realize how important someone you love is to you.

While telling them you love them is so important and the words “I love you” should be expressed sincerely and often, actions speak louder than words.

To my new readers . . . I am a widow who was happily married 22 years, never expecting to be single again . . . never wanting to be single again since my husband and I had a charmed life. We worked hard, partied hard and were so happy . . . although it was not perfect.  Nothing is perfect.

The tragic events of September 11 changed our lives. It horrified both of us and made us realize how fragile life is. We made a pact on 9/11/01 to never go to bed angry, always treat each “goodbye” as the last time we were to see each other and to find little ways of expressing love for each other.

It was the happiest year of our married life.

He died suddenly on 10/8/02.

Do you know how important of a gift that year was to me? 

 We had a great marriage, but the last year was awesome . . . the way it should be every day.

Remember my story the next time you say “goodbye” to someone you love.

How do you experience and express
your love for the people in your life?

P.S. I Love You My Captain


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Veronica Lee said...

Hi Gina! I'm a new follower of your awesome blog.
Happy Friday!

Cheryl said...

My goodness Gina, am so sorry for your loss. My husband and I've recently celebrated our 25th anniversary, and I cannot even imagine the loss you've bared. What a lesson to be learned, and your writings really hit with me. I will definitely be more aware of sharing my feelings with my loved ones. Blessings to you!

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HOPE said...

Hi, I'm over from supermom hop. I read your post and story and loved them both. I'm following you now, and look forward to reading more.
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Susan Evans said...

Oh, what an absolutely beautiful post! (Sniff) I just wrote a blog post yeaterday of all the things I love about my husband. When he got home from work, I asked him if he'd read it, and he just grinned sheepishly and mumbled something. (That's how I showed love to my husband yesterday, since you asked.)

Gina Alfani said...

awwww I appreciate the beautiful comments!! Sometimes one of the reasons bad things happen to good people is the future message. We live in such hectic times and often forget to treat those we love in a special way that they deserve :)

I'm following all of you back!

Auqakuh said...

I found you via Fun Follow Friday and I'm your newest follower Rae T. from There's a Contest for That.

Have a wonderful weekend!

Teresa Choplin @ tchoplin2009(at)gmail(dot)com said...

I'm your newest follower from FUN Follow Friday. I'd like it if you could stop by and follow me back.

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Out Blog Hopping! I am your Newest GFC Follower! IF you get a chance I would love for you to come follow my blog :-)

Ms Bibi said...

I am so sorry for your loss.What a beautiful and touching post.
Thank you for the reminder to cherish each day. I try to express my love every day in simple ways and once in awhile with a bigger gesture, but there are days when I take them for granted and I shouldn't.

I am stopping by and visiting from Java and I am your newest follower over 40,lol


Karen said...

I'm stopping by from Friendly Friday; Hoping you'll stop by and follow me back!

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Colleen @ MuralMaker&More said...

Stopping by and following from Hop Along Friday. What wonderful words. Thank you for sharing! If only we could hold those sentiments in our hearts (and heads) each day!

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*LLL with Leslie* said...

Hi Gina!

I am now following you. I found you through spicy weekend blog hop. Please visit me and follow me too :)


Have a great day!!

Deb K said...

I am now following you from the Spicy Weekend Blog Hop!

You can find me here~

Nellie--Sockertussen said...

Hi Gina!
So sorry for your loss =(

I'm your new follower =)
Would love a follow back on my blog Sockertussen And on Bloglovin' if possible =)

Have a great weekend =)

saving in belle rive said...

found you and following you threw the hop
been married to the love of my life for 33 years teri

Amy said...

Hi Gina very nice to meet you. What an amazing story. It is true we never know what tomorrow holds. I am now a follower of your blog. Your blog rocks Gina!!! Your story is very touching...

singlemom2008 said...

Great post!!!! I am your newest follower from the blog hop. Hope you will stop by

Deborah said...

Hi Gina, This is my first visit to your blog. My heart goes out to you...♥ ((Huggs)) I love the quotes by David Wilkerson and Thomas Merton, both favs of mine.

I do know the heart ache of losing a loved one, I lost my first child one week before his 6th birthday. If I didn't have the Lord in my life I'm not sure how I would have survived. Losing someone dear sure does make you think twice about how you treat others, cuz you never know what may happen like you said in your post.

I wish you the best of all God has for you in your life.

Peace and Blessings,

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Mommy Head said...

Thanks for participating in the Say Hi Sunday Blog Hop. Following you now and would love a follow back.
Nice words of wisdom

Ellen said...

Hi – I’m following you from the Let’s Get Social Sunday Blog Hop. I hope you’ll stop by and follow my blog back.

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Tammilee said...

I found you on the blog hope
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I hope you will stop by and check out the blog and follow

A Little of This and a Little of That said...

I'm a new follower from The Weekend Blog Hop. Please stop by and follow back.


Allegro Mama said...

Gina! I'm your newest follower, thanks for sharing the love over at Allegro Mama :)

SchmoobleeSaver said...

I tell them I love them everyday...Life is just too short. Touching post.

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Thanks, look forward to your posts.

Liberty said...

What a powerful post!! Thank you so much for the reminder. I'm your newest follower via the weekly blog hop!

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