Sunday, February 27, 2011

The Transition Zone






~ Over My Head | Fleetwood Mac ~



“When we feel stuck, going nowhere . . . even
starting to slip backward . . . we may actually
be backing up to get a running start.”

Dan Millman


Changing from holding on to those old habits or circumstances in life can sometimes be difficult since they are comfortable. The transition zone is not in the comfort zone . . . it is the unknown.

Seems like life circumstances can put you in the comfort zone and out of the transition zone. Having to deal with a life and death situations throw me into the comfort zone, making it difficult to eat, sleep or just function normally . . . as if I have been momentarily paralyzed into the comfort zone.

I’m still dealing with the death of my spouse and several close friends and family within the span of a few years and really, I was thinking about how well I was dealing with grief, but now I don’t know what I am feeling . . . it is like everything has come back to haunt me.  It comes and goes . . . even though I have moved on with a new love and my life is happy.

The past couple of weeks have found me dealing with several health issues that have gotten me down with so much to do and not much energy to do it.  

Although I am feeling stuck, going nowhere . . . more like suspended in time . . . and yes, I feel as though I have slipped backward, but I am having faith that I am just backing up to get a running start.


Do you have times of teetering on the edge
of the transition zone and the comfort zone?



3 comments:

raquel roysdon said...

Yes I have times, but I'm never dealt with the lost of a husband. I've been married for 27 years. I'm sorry for you. I can listen and I honor you for exposing a most delicate and vulnerable side.

Gina Alfani said...

Thanks Raquel :) This is awesome therapy for me . . . it is good to let things out or else it will make you crazy to keep it inside.

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