Tuesday, September 6, 2011

Nasty habits and motivation

~ Crowded Head | Collective Soul ~

"Be miserable.
Or motivate yourself.
Whatever has to be done, 
it's always your choice."

Wayne Dyer

OK, fess up . . . I guess we all do it at times . . .
it is ok to want to feel miserable and throw a pity party.

I do it without realizing that I'm doing it.

It is all about changing your thinking and the way surrounding circumstances are perceived.  I'm learning that negative thinking isn't going to make my life much better or happier.  Quite the contrary.

One of my realizations is that negative thinking is a nasty habit.

Nasty habits are so hard for me to break, however, I believe that over time they can be defeated through awareness.

Choosing to motivate happiness should be the goal rather than expecting misery through negative thinking and dwelling on what is not right.  Circumstances are what they are and can't be changed . . . defeat the vicious cycle of negative thinking and make the best of the situation. 

You reap what you sow!

There was a time when I wrote notes to myself and placed them where I could see them in the midst of my daily routine on the refrigerator door, the bathroom mirror and/or my computer monitor . . . the little reminders heighten awareness to break those nasty little habits, leading thoughts in the right direction, whatever they are.

While it is healthy to look back on past experiences, it is not healthy to dwell on them or overthink them to the point of the downward spiral that can get out of control.  Thinking positively about the here and now and living for the moment is a much better practice . . . it is not living through rose-colored glasses . . . rather, it is expecting positive outcomes and breaking the vicious cycle of negative thinking while being realistic.

Peace, love and happiness . . . 
choose to be happy :) 


nothingprofound said...

Excellent post. Good luck with your efforts. Negative attitudes cause us more unhappiness than all of our misfortunes.

Gina Alfani said...

Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

Sometimes the enemy within us is more destructive than anything else . . .

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