I am who I am!

I am who I am, and that is all I need to be. I've actually liked myself in certain times of my life.   The rest of my life I have hated myself.  In my realization of self-hate after JR died, I had to first admit to myself that the self-hate existed and then forgive myself,...

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Relationship with self

The most important relationship we have in our lives is with ourselves. And even though we are the only ones who are present at every moment of our lives—from birth onward—this relationship can be the most difficult one to cultivate. This may be because society places such emphasis on the importance...

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Honor the awesomeness

"I’d gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, I discovered that my capacities were real. It was like finding a fortune in the lining of an old coat." -- Joan Mills "People become really quite remarkable when they start thinking that...

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Authenticity

When I cruise the internet, I get lost and spend hours looking for new and interesting websites and blogs.  On occasion, I run into one that I consider outstanding . . . BlogHer is one of them.  You can reach the website by going to the sidebar of my blog . . . I have included the "Own Your...

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Contradictions in life

I must learn to love the fool in me,the one who feels too much,talks too much,takes too many chances, wins sometimes and loses often, lacks self-control, loves and hates, hurts and gets hurt, promises and breaks promises, laughs and cries.(Theodore Isaac Rubin)Aren't we all a contradiction of ourselves...

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Be yourself

"Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it." Bruce Lee What a beautiful quote! How many of us follow the trends and look just like any other person in the way we dress and express ourselves?   The...

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Love Yourself

"It's surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you're not comfortable within yourself, you can't be comfortable with others."Sydney J. Harris"We have the need to be...

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Relationships and being a "complete person"

Everything you need you already have. You are complete right now, you are a whole, total person, not an apprentice person on the way to someplace else. Wayne Dyer Close your eyes and imagine that everything you have and everything you are is enough. You don’t need to be better or different...

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Hello mirror . . . I love you

~ Why Should I Care | Toni Braxton ~ Do you want to meet the love of your life? Look in the mirror! (Byron Katie) Originally written September 21, 2008 I may sometimes let myself down, but I have control over it. Me, myself and I  will always be here, it is the most important...

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Self-acceptance and perfection

“We have the need to be accepted and to be loved by others, but we cannot accept and love ourselves. The more self-love we have, the less we will experience self-abuse. Self-abuse comes from self-rejection, and self-rejection comes from having an image of what it means to be perfect and never measuring...

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The fine line between love and hate

“We loathe ourselves for living and lying every day in little ways that devalue and dishonor us” Sarah Ban Breathnach, Something More All I can say is that I’m very glad to be getting past the phase of hating myself. What a relief it was to give myself permission to stop trying to...

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Unconditional acceptance

It is the mindset that set me free and started the healing process . . . unconditional acceptance of my life circumstances. What else can you do when life abruptly changes and you have no control over it? You can’t make yourself crazy over things you have no control over. It is a matter of...

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