Saturday, June 21, 2014

Perceptions of Sorrow

~ Down On Me | Heart ~

A mood of melancholy can overtake you today, blinding you to pleasures you usually value so highly. You may not know how to respond to this mind-set and may unwittingly prevent yourself from taking those actions that will bring you relief. If you allow yourself to withdraw from the world, you may find that a great weight is lifted from your shoulders. But you can further soothe yourself by reflecting upon the feelings plaguing you. The introspective activities you engage in can become the cornerstone of your efforts to regain your good spirits, and you will likely enjoy a renewed peace of mind before the day is through. 
The effect sadness has upon us is modulated by our perception of the feelings coursing through our hearts and minds. When we treat sorrow as little more than a crushing weight over which we have no power, it has the power to negatively impact our experience as a whole. If, however, we envision our low spirits as both a signal and an opportunity, we can take control of our feelings and use them to enrich ourselves through self-examination. Frequently, our sadness is an indication that we are denying some lingering issues that are capable of influencing our moods. In investigating our disposition using introspection as a tool, we can discover why we feel as we do. When you withdraw in your melancholy, you will soon come upon the cure that allows you to restore your good nature. 
 Source:  Daily Om

Overwhelming sadness has consumed me way too long.  Seems like it crept up on me and I haven't been able to shake it off.

I took a typical grief trigger day of what would have been my 34th wedding anniversary to JR way too hard . . . it was the most difficult year yet.  Maybe it is everything else going on.

The same problems persist and just won't go away anytime soon . . . it is all starting to get to me.

This too shall pass . . . just needed to let it out.


Tammy said...

Thank you Gina... I feel like no one ever told me it was ok to withdraw before... I thought I was bad, weak, etc for wanting to withdraw. However it is a need that I can't escape no matter how hard I try... Your words taught me its ok to attend to my needs that other people judge as bad... Your words taught me its ok to love myself, flaws and all... You are one of a kind Gina, and the world should know it!

Gina Alfani said...

You are welcome! Those who don't walk in your shoes don't understand and judge the behavior as a "pity party" even though it isn't. Sometimes you just need to acknowledge it's existence and attempt to figure out the root of the problem.

Thank you for your kind words :)

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