Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Rocky Relationships and Negativity

Although it is not a particularly funny subject, we can look back at the emotional battles of any type of relationship and see a certain amount of absurdity and drama that exists when tensions run high and have a good laugh after everyone has cooled off.   Even the strongest of marriages...
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Saturday, July 26, 2014

Shedding Light On Ourselves

When we choose that which is not best for us, there can be a deep seated part of us that does not want to heal. In almost every case, we know what is best for us in our lives, from the relationships we create to the food we eat. Still, somewhat mysteriously, it is often difficult...
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Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Little steps

Those who would climb to a lofty height  must go by steps, not leaps. St. Gregory the Great from a letter to Augustine of Canterbury Baby steps is what is needed when a change in life circumstances reverts back to what is considered "normal" . . . normal being the perception...
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Monday, July 21, 2014

Life is a collaborative effort

"It is important to choose our partnerships consciously. Sometimes forged quickly during times of need, we may find ourselves rushing into unions with perhaps not the clearest intentions. Partnerships created from those starting point might serve our immediate needs, but the repercussions of...
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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Positive Self-Affirmation

"When we develop a confident mind-set and release our worries about what others think of us, we build our self-esteem and bring more balance to our relationships.  Most often our fears about what others think of us are simply projections of how we view ourselves. When we begin to change...
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Friday, July 18, 2014

Change . . . and the comfort zone

The comfort zone is something I am intimately acquainted with. In bad times, the comfort zone is a place to heal and feel safe when we feel the ravages of life beating on us like the waves on the ocean. There have been many times in my life when the “comfort zone” was the only place for...
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Happiness and joy

The happiness and joy experience: strengthens the immune system promotes general good health burn away the impurities in your emotional system disperses worries, anxieties, grief, frustration, stress and other negative emotions. sharpens intellect and memory Joy was seen as a sacred responsibility...
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Thursday, July 17, 2014

Suppressed emotions

"Our tears are what happens when it rains deep inside our hearts and we cannot hold the rain any longer." - Philippos Sometimes we hold little things inside that build up and fester.  No matter what, things just don't seem right.  Those little things can rob our peace...
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Friday, July 11, 2014

What's happening . . .

As I rebuild this blog, it is my hope that I am not confusing everybody with the posts that automatically feed into different places on the internet and to those who subscribe by email. A couple of weeks ago I guess I was going through a difficult time with anxiety and panic attacks about being...
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Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Offering love and comfort

They invented hugs to let people know you  love them without saying anything.  (Bil Keane) Sometimes just being with somebody,  rather than words,is all that  is needed to help. Sometimes it is difficult to see someone we love struggling, in pain,...
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Tuesday, July 8, 2014

It's about love

"The minute I heard my first love story, I started looking for you, not knowing how blind that was. Lovers don't finally meet somewhere. They're in each other all along." Rumi, was a great Sufi mystic, lover and poet It is how I was feeling before I met The Captain,  I knew he was there...
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Monday, July 7, 2014

Life's Best Moments

You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going.  What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope. Thomas Merton The roller coaster ride of emotions can...
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Sunday, July 6, 2014

Peaceful Sanctuaries

"It is oftentimes necessary that we create the peaceful sanctuaries in which we wish to relax and refresh ourselves. However much we may dream of settling into the comforting embrace of a quite and uncluttered personal space, our circumstances will not always allow us to immediately do so....
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Wednesday, July 2, 2014

Bottomless pit of wants and desires

If you look at what you have in life, you'll always have more. If you look at what you don't have in life, you'll never have enough. Oprah Winfrey The lifestyle theory of Simple Abundance teaches being happy and grateful for the little things in life, no matter how much or how little we actually...
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No promises

I try to remind myself that we are never promised anything, and that what control we can exert is not over the events that befall us but how we address ourselves to them. Jeanne DuPrau The Earth House Being grateful for what we have been blessed with is not easy when life circumstances...
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