The Behavior of Others

“Don’t let the behavior of others destroy your inner peace.”  

Dalai Lama

The opinion of others regarding me personally held me captive most of my life.  It agonized me to point of obsession where I was trying to figure out why the person was behaving in this manner.  It made me so sad.

As I look back at my life, I wonder what possessed me to even care about what others thought of me.  I've dealt with this kind of stuff so much that now I could care less and it has become easy to take these people out of my life.

Now I only want to know why and what their problem is.  What makes them think they can act this way toward another person?  It is total rudeness!

It has never been in my nature to lash out and defend myself, I would just ignore it and wish the behavior would go away.  Now I whisk the behavior out of my life . . . and I still won't confront.  It is a mystery to me that I don't confront.  

They no longer steal my inner peace!

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Positive Thoughts

 

One small positive thought can change your whole day.

Zig Ziglar
When you are down and out, one of the hardest things to do is talk yourself into a positive mood.  Most of the time I could not do it until I started trying little tricks to fool myself.1.  Turn off the television unless it is something that will make you laugh.  If you are like me when you are in that negative mood, hardly anything will make you laugh.  Don't even watch the news, stay away from it like poison!!2.  Turn on music that you love or relaxes you.  In my case, it is high energy dance music like old disco music.  It doesn't relax me, but it brings me to a happier place and time.  It is the most positive inspiring thing I can do for myself.3.  Write about how you feel.  Usually I write in my blog, but sometimes it is just too personal and I write somewhere else.  Ask yourself questions, like "why am I upset" like a therapist would do.  As a matter of fact, I learned this one trick from my therapist a long time ago.  It has really helped me understand myself and get through many situations.4.  I'll ask myself to do one tiny thing and not think about a whole bunch of stuff that needs to be done.  It could be that doing the one little thing will result in doing something else.  5.  Don't overwhelm yourself, if possible.  I'm retired and alone, so it is easy for me to do exactly what I want to do when I want to do it.6.  Talk to yourself positively.  Your thoughts are instrumental in how you feel.These are some of my coping mechanisms that I see as being positive and so important in my life.  Sometimes it takes tiny baby steps, but any step is a step forward.  Coping with life circumstances is taking one second at a time and learning how to sit down, relax and take a deep breath, telling yourself "you can do this."  Otherwise I'll just stay in bed and watch television which is negative and so bad for me. 

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The Turning Point

 

• “True abundance isn’t based on our net worth, 
• it’s based on our self-worth.” 
• Gabrielle Bernstein

After 9-11, the book "Simple Abundance" changed my life.  Since then, my quest for success and making more and more money changed to being grateful for what I have.  It stresses what is really important in life.

The realization to slow down, take a deep breath and enjoy the moment is lost in our society.  It seems like they wake up angry and run around like a chicken with its head cut off.  

My life has changed drastically since my younger days.  I was one of those people running around and moving so fast that I could not enjoy anything.  That can make you very angry at the world and everything that happens, no matter how good.

When I decided to drop out, stay home and become an internet retailer, the relief I felt was indescribable.  The feeling of peace within my soul was so much more important than the money.  JR and I were the happiest we had ever been.  That was so important since he passed away shortly after the lifestyle change.  For that I have been eternally grateful.  All the money in the world could not bring me to that place.

Life after The Captain passed away has been filled with guilt since so many things were left in an undone, bad place and stole my peace.  Forgotten were the lessons learned on 9-11 of treating every day as if it was the last.

It has been difficult for me to have a positive attitude and grateful life since I felt so undone to the soul of my being.  Having to put Kiki to sleep was the ultimate "nail in the coffin" to my life.

Today, I am back to the gratefulness as I finally realize that these things are all part of life, the good and the bad.  I believe it is all God's will and I should trust him.  Everything happens for a reason.  I'm so happy for the awesome memories of my past life that made me happy and even the sad ones.  

More importantly, they have

 taught me valuable life lessons.

My relationships with people in this world have solidified my love of being home alone and not feeling the judgment of others with whatever I am experiencing in my life.  Now I don't care what anyone thinks and that is finally true freedom. I am not lonely since I have a very content life.

Do what makes you happy no matter what anyone else thinks!

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Peace and contentment

 

Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will make your paths straight.

Proverbs 3:5-6

I've recently realized that trust and resulting faith brings peace and contentment.  

It is what I've been praying for.

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Hope and positivity

 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Jeremiah 29:11

While I am still incredibly sad, my faith in God has intensified and the feelings of hope have brought me to a happier place even though nothing has changed.  It is a positive state of mind which results in hope.

The first anniversary of making the decision to put Kiki to sleep is a week away and it feels like time has stood still.  My heart breaks over and over again as the days pass.  My memories have gradually shifted to those that make me smile and I know that is a positive sign.  She always appears in my dreams so vividly and I wake up feeling like she has visited me.  They are always happy visits.  God has truly blessed me.  I know that those who have not experienced finding their soul dog think I am crazy.

I have faith and hope that I will be happy again.

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Every day is a new day

 

So we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, our inner self is being renewed day by day. For this light momentary affliction is preparing for us an eternal weight of glory beyond all comparison, as we look not to the things that are seen but to the things that are unseen. For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal.

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

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Find The Happy Life

 

"You do not find the happy life.

You make it."

Thomas S. Monson

Determined to find contentment in the midst of grief and sadness, I asked myself the simple question . . . "what would make me happy?" . . . the graphic depicts what would make me happy at this time in my life.  

An outdoor sanctuary, a pleasant place to escape that is pleasing to my senses, to enjoy a beautiful Florida day and watch the birds and squirrels.  A place to be grateful for all that I have been blessed with.  Surround myself with the happiness that being in the middle of colorful flowers brings me.

While I realize that getting to that place will take lots of hard work, I think the work distraction alone is just what I need.  So, as the hot days of summer unwind, I shall embark on this new journey that I know will bring me peace and contentment.  I've done this before.  This time it could be the thing that works wonders for my physical health as well as the positive mental aspect of it all.

Today is the first day of the rest of my life.

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