Wednesday, March 9, 2011

Keep The Lamp Burning

This is an older post that I wrote back in 2008 on an older  blog that is now private . . . in my opinion, it is one of the most important and profound posts I have ever written.  It has been somewhat rewritten to reflect my present life situation, which is the best of my life.  As important as the message is, there is another message within the message . . . good things come to those who wait . . . it is all about keeping the faith, no matter what.

If we want a love message to be heard,
it has got to be sent out.
To keep a lamp burning,
we have to keep putting oil in it.

Mother Theresa

There is one lesson in life I have learned about love 
if you are truly in love, you need to shout it out to the world 
what good is undeclared love?

Prideful love is unhappy love

Even if you don't shout it out to the world and make declarations as I do through my blogs, let the person you love know how much you love them, what their presence in your life means to you . . . make them feel special . . . they are the most high, the most special.

True love is the most special emotion in existence

It is something that I am aware of every moment of every day.  After all the years without meaningful love in my life after suddenly becoming a widow, my sweetie is the greatest treasure in my life.  I am a new person with a renewed faith that good things come to those who wait.  It doesn't get better than that!

I love the lines from Mother Theresa, especially to keep putting oil in the lamp . . . it is so important to keep love alive. Make sure you never let that lamp burn out . . . that is what tragedies are made of.


Tammy said...

Love is something we all need, want, but are at least slightly afraid of. So being patient takes courage that doesn't feel like you should need to give and accept love. But if you need but don't have it, its tempting to take what quick and easy now but pay for it later.Or we can harden the heart and say we don't need anyone to love, to protect (good) by shutting out most people (bad).

Love is beautiful but it takes skill, discernment, and determination to give and receive it...and that my friend Gina you have in spades. Keep that gorgeous heart open, nothing but the best for relationship, and it feels so good to be reading your writing again.

Gina Alfani said...

Hey Tammy . . . it is so good to hear from you again! Thank you so much for the sweet comment . . . you are a special lady :)

I look forward to seeing you get back into blogging again . . .

Hoping that everything is well in your world . . . as you can see . . . I am finally happy and settled down with my new love, The Captain. He moved to Florida last year :)

Intangible Hearts said...

Hi from California- I think you've missed a few months of my silly observations. I have to say you are so right about love. I love my husband and he loves me so much- but when my family visits he gets embarrassed and doesn't act warm towards me- he acts like a tough guy and they think he doesn't like me at all. They think I've lost it! I personally think I've been happy for 20 years. Go figure.

Lainy said...

Love is always a gamble. There is the risk of getting hurt. But how will we know how to love and experience being loved if we don't take a gamble?

That all-consuming love is rare. We can find it only once in a lifetime and if we find it, we can't let it go. We cease the opportunity and make the most out of it. It's a beautiful feeling to have taken such a gamble. But like they say, it's a two way street. Two souls have to make an effort to make it work.

Gina Alfani said...

True love is unconditional . . . and a big gamble, but so worth it. It is a two way street for sure!

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