Thursday, November 12, 2015

Just One More Day

~ Just One Last Dance | Sarah Connor ft. Natural ~

There are times my thoughts go to having one more day with the loved ones who have left my life.  It never gets to the point of pondering the question "what would I say" and how would I feel in the end.  

Would I go through grief of this person leaving my life again?

Would it bring up more regrets or questions?

One more hug would be awesome, but would it be enough?  

Would it make me want more and more, making the grief intensified?

I didn't get to say goodbye to JR, my nana or nano.  What would I have said? How do you say goodbye to someone who has been such a big part of your life?

Death and resulting grief has to be the most difficult thing to deal with in life. Everyone has a different way of dealing with it.  I write and let my feelings out, it helps me.  Some people hold it all inside, like in denial of any hurtful emotions.

The Grief Toolbox, the website, has really been helpful for me.  The graphic comes from there and is just an example of how they post those articles, poems and so much more that make me think about something I had not thought about before.


My Meddling Mind said...

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I had a chance to say good bye to my Dad, but I don't think that was enough. In particular because his illness got the best of him and I don't think he was able to comprehend when I would tell him how important he is to me and how much I truly loved him, he was just to sick to understand or reply. I still think I am in some sort of denial. When my dad comes to mind, I quickly shift my thoughts to something else because I'm afraid the pain of losing him might become as much as it was when it first happened 4 years ago. The questions you posed are thought provoking...if we had one more day, or one more hug. I think for me the pain would be the same.

Gina Alfani said...

The pain would also be the same for me. In fact, knowing what I know now, it would be very difficult to let go.

I have been very lucky to have my loved ones appear in my dreams. For some reason, when I wake up I feel like everything is ok and they are happy and still there for me. The dreams are like very pleasant little visits in an otherwise ordinary day, totally unexpected and make me so happy. Maybe it is the way they appear to me . . . in real life, the pain would be too much to bear.

Don't you think that we are all in dealing with some type of denial when it comes to grief?

Thank you for sharing your thoughts Madison :)

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