Saturday, March 7, 2009

Perfect love

~ If That's Love (Remix) | Laura Pausini ~

Although I rarely have a problem putting anything into words, defining what perfect love is to me would be very difficult.

Besides, someone already did it for me.

The song If Thats Love by Laura Pausini is one of my favorite songs ever and this dance remix is my favorite version. It perfectly describes my perfect vision of love.

Although I have been lucky to have found love several times in my life, I can honestly say that I have experienced this kind of perfect love once with my husband. He always used to tell me that he could not ever see himself anywhere else but with me. If you can say these words to each other, you have an important aspect of perfect love.

“But if you say you’ve finally found in me
The only place that you could ever be
If that’s love then you’ve got my heart”

Have you ever had a relationship with someone who had a wandering eye for every person of the opposite sex and would practically get whiplash to check them out right in front of you . . . then say “what . . . can’t I look?” A womanizer gets nipped in the bud before I can develop an attachment . . . that drives me crazy! I want to feel the above lyrics . . . and it has nothing to do with trust . . . it has to do with respect for your feelings.

One of my pet peeves is someone who claims they love you just the way you are and then tries to change you into something you are not. This is the one single thing that has ended many a relationship for me. I must be true to myself . . . that doesn’t mean turning myself inside out for a man. Real love is loving the other person just the way they are.

“If I have to let go of my dreams
Become someone I never ever thought I’d be
If that’s love then I want no part.”

Those are some of my opinions about perfect love . . . of course I have many more . . . but for now I wanted to hit on the most important aspects for me.

What about you?
What are your expectations of perfect love?

If you’re gonna break my heart and leave
Make promises you don’t intend to keep
If that’s love then I want no part.
But if you think that love should last for life
If you believe it’s more than just one night
If that’s love then you’ve got my heart.
And if you’d rather hold on to your pride
Than wipe away the tears you made me cry
If that’s love then I want no part.
But if you’re gonna be there when I need
Someone to just hold me tenderly
If that’s love then you’ve got my heart.
If the kinda love that you bring
Comes with no demands and no strings
If in your eyes I see for sure
That you’re the one I’m waiting for
I’ll give my heart, my soul, my everything.
If I have to let go of my dreams
Become someone I never ever thought I’d be
If that’s love then I want no part.
But if you’re gonna be the kinda man
Who’s willing just to take me as I am
If that’s love then you’ve got my heart.
Tell me in your arms I’ll be safe
Where loneliness and fear have no place
The only thing you have to do
The only thing I ask of you
Is give your heart, your soul, and your everything.
And if you cannot give these things to me
Then I just have to tell you honestly
If that’s love then I want no part.
But if you say you’ve finally found in me
The only place that you could ever be
If that’s love then you’ve got my heart


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