Sunday, July 10, 2011

Happiness is . . .

"Someone once asked me what I regarded as the three most important requirements for happiness. My answer was: "A feeling that you have been honest with yourself and those around you; a feeling that you have done the best you could both in your personal life and in your work; and the ability to love others."

- Eleanor Roosevelt

What a beautiful quote!

Of course there are many other aspects to happiness, but I agree they are the most important . . . except I would change the ability to love others to the ability to love and be loved.  It is #1 for me.

My #2 . . . Honesty with myself and others . . . in my opinion equates to total freedom.  Not being honest with yourself is not being true to yourself.  The harmony of knowing what it takes to make you happy by being honest with yourself is so important.

As far as NOT being honest with others . . . that is straight up being a fake person trying to be someone they are not.  In my opinion, it is way too much trouble to keep up with untruths.  A lie is a lie . . . 

My #3 . . . do the best you can do in all your endeavors and you will feel awesome about yourself.  Your best should be enough for you and those you love.  

If your best is not good enough for yourself, you need to evaluate your reality perspective.  In the case of relationships . . . who made them judge and jury of your best as not good enough?  Don't allow someone else to rob your happiness with unrealistic expectations!

What are your most important
 requirements for happiness?

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Eschelle said...

waking up and smiling and hoping that the reason for it will follow :)

Gina Alfani said...

Keep smiling Eschelle :)

Have a beautiful day . . . Gina

Madison said...

I totally love your post's, this is another good one. Hope you have a button, I want to put it on my page.:)


Gina Alfani said...

Thank you Madison!! I've just added my button on the sidebar.

Have an awesome week . . . Gina :)

shah wharton said...

Hello Gina

I'm here to ask that you support the blogging mental health community and help me to build a successful weekly (refreshed each month) linky resource here

The rules etc are on todays post - but I'm always open to new ideas to make it more user friendly. To the left is a button which holds previous links as a store cupboard if you like. I'll be piling in the weekly links once a month, then starting a fresh once more.

Id love it if you could (weekly if poss) perhaps link up any post which related to mental health.

In fact - I'd really appreciate it.

Shah .X

Tomas said...

I enjoyed your post on the happiness and wish to thank for the great ending question. You asked what are my (our) most important requirements for happiness. I see that as the test that is so hard to pass. I think we will never feel ourselves happy if we will put any requirements for the happiness. There is no need to search for any happiness, we need just leave all our prejudices - step out of ourselves for to discover the joy of breathing and thus will be reborn in the gratitude.

Sorry if my Lithuanian-English was hard to grasp, therefore I dare to welcome you to my blog art by Tomas. Please browse the archives there. I think my artworks would answer what is the happiness more eloquently than my try to write in the foreign language. Hope you will enjoy the colors and your comments will enable me to rejoice too.

Pushhyarag2000 said...

1. To feel reassured that God will take care of me if I do not doubt that he will
2. Not to hurt others
3. Being recognized for what I am
4. Being a able to make a tiny mark on this planet.

Thanks for getting us to share.

Slidecutter said...

Lovely post, Gina!

I'm so glad that I finally had the chance to stop by from "Dare to Share" and enjoy your beautiful writings.

Have to agree with all you wrote and with everyone else's comments; my only wish is to leave some imprint on this crazy planet, hoping that those I love remember the good things, always.

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