Tuesday, June 21, 2011

The Gift of Anger


You know the feeling. It's that rage you get when someone cuts you off on the highway; the one where you just want to floor it and flip the bird. Anger is a corrosive emotion that can run off with your mental and physical health. So do you hold it in? Or do you let it all hang out? Yet, anger doesn't dissipate just because you unleash it.

Here are a few articles and blog posts that can help you manage this raw emotion.



I Am Angry

A curious solution to pandemic anger: Justin Bieber and beginner’s mind


What Kind of Partner Do You Want to Be?

Did you promise your partner to love, honor, and resent?


Anger Is the Key
Anger, not love, makes the world go 'round.


The Primacy of Anger Problems

Anger is a primary emotion.


Aggressive Athletes: Out of Control and Unapologetic
Why do athletes lash out? And are they really sorry?


Anger Problems: What They Say about You

Do you see anger or resentment in the mirror?


What Your Anger May Be Hiding

Reflections on the most seductive—and addictive—of human emotions.




Managing Anger


When Negative Thoughts Invade

Repeat the mantra: Not helpful.


Why Getting Revenge Isn't Worth It

The best revenge is none at all.


Controlling Anger
How to keep anger from eroding your life.


Compassion--Can It Transcend Forgiveness?

Is compassion, finally, more crucial than forgiveness?


Anger Management Failures

Don't date someone you meet in anger management class.


The Lion Tamer

Steven Stosny defuses rage by teaching people how to connect.


Top 10 Tools to Avoid Ugly Arguments

Constructive arguments can be a pathway to growth.


Disarming Your Buttons: How Not to Get Provoked (Part 1 of 4)

Why your hot buttons essentially belong to your child self.



Are You Angry?


Anger and Catharsis: Myth, Metaphor or Reality?

Concluding that catharsis of anger can't be therapeutic is incorrect.


Attributional Biases and Violent Soccer Play

In defense of Lambert’s character.


Living with an Angry Partner

Don't become resentful or angry yourself.


You Can't Punch Your Way Out of Anger

You can’t let off steam with violence.


McEnroe: Serena's Outburst Was Fine

McEnroe approves of Serena Williams abusing official.


Friends Don't Pick Up On Anger

We often fail to detect concealed anger in close pals.


The Origin of Fighting

The adaptive use of aggression






The Gift of Anger
By Mastin Kipp

Oh this hot coal of anger
How it can burn to the core
Of anyone who touches it's surface
But this fire, this rage of fear
Is a friend in hiding
The light of anger, the blessing of it's heat
Is that it melts away all the frozen shadows
Of our past
And sets them free to fly into the
Light of our awareness
Anger is a compass pointing towards
The blocks that keep Love from us
When anger becomes your friend
Love is sure to follow
Meet all your blocks with understanding
And this hot coal will cease to burn you
And begin to warm the frozen parts of your soul
Here is the gift of anger's heat
To express a grief and find a blessing in disguise
To break your heart
And find out that this is the only way for it to be
Open



Source: Mastin Kipp and TDL on Twitter






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