Renewed sense of aliveness through gratefulness

 

The renewed sense of aliveness in my life is amazing.  It goes to show how living gratefully has the power to transform.

Honestly, I can't say that I have been grateful for everything that happened since Hurricane Irma and all the misery that followed.  After each period of shock and heartbreak, the gratefulness came back, so did my faith in God.

Life isn't easy but through hope, faith and gratefulness, a joyful existence can be reached if it is what you strive for.  Anything in life is possible.  That is the lesson I have learned.

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Be true to yourself

 

Be faithful to that which exists within yourself. 

André Gide

It has finally occurred to me that I don't have to apologize for who I am.

Many don't understand why I love being a homebody finding peace in my solitude at home.

When I met The Captain, I desired one person who could love and understand me and he was the one.  And of course I wanted the attention and love from my dog Kiki.  Now that they are both gone, the grieving for not having them in my life anymore brought me to crave being totally alone to find my peace.  I lost my precious family.  

I'm now protecting the peace I found.

My life has changed drastically since my younger days when I enjoyed having lots of friends and family in my life.  My first husband and I would throw large parties all the time.  Our home was the party place.

Many people hurt me in my work life and my personal life.  I took it without fighting back for decades.  I slowly retreated from society.  After my first husband passed away, I let few people close to me as I sought solitude.  

Then I reached a new phase that was much like my present place in life.  I guess grieving the loss of the one person I loved with all my heart caused me to question who I am at the time.  Losing a partner brought me to a totally new place in life that has required solitude to reevaluate life and my place in it.  At least that is how it has been for me after losing both husbands.  I've been through it twice and it profoundly changed me.

I have been criticized after The Captain passed away for how I handle grief and many other things . . . again.  That was the tipping point to losing my tolerance for the bullshit of people.  

Now I really don't care.

Home is the one place where I don't fear judgment.  Being home alone at this point in my life has been a softer place to land in comfort.  Through my grief, turning away from people who criticize has taken me from anger to joy.

I'm not running away from life, I'm enjoying my comfortable solitude.

Maybe at the right moment in time I will want back into society, but I doubt it.

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What is your heart longing for right now?

 

As I approached the worst time of year for me in October, my prayer has continued to be feeling peace and contentment again.  While October was bad, my trust in God strengthens me even if peace and contentment are barely there, but better than last year.  Time does heal grief even though it moves way slow.

My heart longs for the desire to get things done that I need to do.  It is coming back slowly.  I've found myself automatically washing the dishes right away when preparing meals and not letting them stack up.  My desire to cook is coming back, which is really good since I spend way too much money ordering meals from Door Dash.

It would make me so happy to be able to use my office again.  The Captain stacked it with so many boxes that I can hardly walk in there since we moved back from my mom's house after the hurricane.  Yes, it has taken me that long.  

I went through a different type of grief when my mom moved to another state to live with my brother.  She and I were very close and I just see her maybe twice a year now.  So my desire to do major things has been gone a very long time.  It is about time I get that motivation back so I can live a normal home life.  I'd love to get back to making jewelry and selling stuff on Etsy and eBay.

Forward progress feels good as I regain my motivation and even feel peace and contentment at times.  I've found myself finding joy in little things again and thanking God for any amount of progress.

My trust in God is strong and I know I will find that perfect peace again.

 

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