Saturday, July 2, 2011

Putting perfectionism into perspective

Through the years, I've been able to shed some of the stereotypical traits of a perfectionist, but it has been a long journey that took me through bouts of depression. What I am about to say is going to come off sounding awful, but it is honest.  I could care less what others think...
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Friday, July 1, 2011

Living in harmony

"Peace comes not from the absence of conflict, but from the ability to cope with it." Unknown Source "Peace is not won by those who fiercely guard their  differences, but by those who with open minds  and hearts seek out connections." Katherine Paterson   "Harmony...
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Wednesday, June 29, 2011

The Bad Date . . . a nightmare from the past!

This was my first attempt at entering a writing contest back in September of 2007 . . . and it was voted first place . . . back in the days of Yahoo 360 blogs.   It is unfortunately a true story . . . one of my first adventures with online dating after becoming a widow . . . I would say...
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Monday, June 27, 2011

Emotional Responses

Our emotions can lead to discovery of issues within ourselves that we may not be willing to face.  However, sweeping bad feelings "under the rug" and ignoring them will not make it better.  Quite the contrary, since they can grow and fester with disastrous consequences. Bad situations...
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Sunday, June 26, 2011

The miracle of change . . . and boredom

The feeling of boredom is often misunderstood and  can actually mean we need to look under  the layers for change. Sometimes we feel that things aren't moving along fast enough for us and that the world is passing us by. It may be that time seems to stand still and that we are simply...
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Thursday, June 23, 2011

Valuing Someone Gives Meaning

Showing someone that you value them resonates the soul within them and makes them feel loved and appreciated. The need for love and being valued is so strong because it gives us meaning, and meaning is achieved through being of value to others in relationships. Valuing someone helps them...
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Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Meaning in life

Meaning doesn’t lie in things; meaning lies in us.  When we attach a value to things that aren’t love and cannot love— the money, the car, the house—we’re loving things that can’t love us back. We’re searching for meaning in the meaningless, and this will always cause pain....
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