The anger of grief is gone

 

May you embrace this day, not just as any old day, but as this day. Your day. Held in trust by you, in a singular place, called now.

Carrie Newcomer

I'm grateful for today.

My day.

A day to be happy I'm alive.

Grateful for the joy.

Yesterday I saw a graphic in my phone that said, "I'm happy that God had blessed us with another Tuesday."  It was the message I sent to my mother to say good morning.

Later when we spoke, we both complained about our aches and pains, the arthritis, the pain that afflicts us both.  As I was winding down, I repeated the good morning message.  Even though I have this pain, I'm happy that God has blessed us with another Tuesday.  And we laughed and discussed how lucky we are to still be able to use our legs and walk . . . even with the pain. 

The anger of grief is gone and I can feel joy again.

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The bridge that carried me over

"Praise the bridge that carried you over."

George Colman the Younger
English dramatist

Every day is getting better for me emotionally.

It is a natural progression.

And for that I am grateful.

I am finally at peace and feel free

and praising the bridge that carried me over.

The graphic and the quote is how I am feeling today.  Since the stroke of midnight on New Years Eve, it feels like I have crossed that bridge in the quote.

It is a mindset of a new beginning.

Perhaps enough time has passed and my grief stage has remained in that new phase I have discussed.  It is about time!

From prior experience, I know I will still have my sad moments when that wave I talk about hits me, but soon I am back to normal.  

Grief never goes away, but neither does the love we experienced.

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Just Another Chapter

 

Every exit is an entry somewhere else.

Tom Stoppard

We exited 2025 and entered 2026.

Just another chapter in life as we move through the chapters, some good, some bad, some happy, some sad.

As a society, most of us eat black eyed peas or grapes or a number of what I call superstitions that are just that.

Every year I faithfully ate my grapes and black eyed peas, hoping that the year would be better than the last. One year was worse than the other whether I ate the grapes or not.  With the decade or so that I have had, this year I decided to forget the grapes and black eyed peas.

It is just another chapter in my life.  All I can do is pray for a better year and have faith that it will be.  

I'll have faith in God instead of grapes or black eyed peas.

Happy New Year!

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One day at a time

 

“The best thing about the future

is that it comes one day at a time.”

ABRAHAM LINCOLN

16th U.S. President

I've learned the concept of one moment at a time and sometimes it is one second at a time.

Life has a way of testing us by throwing unexpected situations at us, often leaving us broken and lost.

My choice was to have faith that God would see me through it and guide me as I worked through it all.  I was led to take life one day at a time.  When I had scary moments of feeling lost, I would take one moment or seconds at a time.

Now that I have gone through the grief phases and have reached one that allows me to have peace and joy again.  There are times when I think I am back in the beginning phases, but I can quickly get through it.

I'm so grateful I took the one day at a time approach.  When I would think beyond the day, that is when overwhelm and feelings of doom set in.

With God by my side, I can say "this too shall pass" and it always does.

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Coming out of a fog

 

It’s not life’s job to make me happy. It’s my job to find the joy in life by observing and appreciating the small wonders and everyday miracles that are all around me, everywhere, every minute of my life.

Paul Cotter

Beautiful words to live by.

The thought that it is my job to find joy in life was not realized until I started living the Simple Abundant life.  That book opened a whole new world for me.  I've written about it many times.

After The Captain and Kiki passed away, it is as if the world around me didn't exist anymore.  Although I still lived my life with gratitude, it did not bring me joy.

The new grief phase made me realize that it was the world that I knew and lived everyday was gone and I knew I would have to create a new life for myself.

Joy would mean something different.  Everything in my life is somewhat different, but I have finally realized this is my new normal and new joys in life would be experienced if only I would open my eyes to see them.

Now I appreciate the little things again like hearing the neighborhood roosters crow or hearing the sweet voices of the cardinals wondering if God brings them to me to experience joy again in my life.  They have been here all this time.

Today was a sad day for some reason . . . they just hit me like a ton of bricks.  It could be the holidays happening without them.  Of course that is going to make me sad because I miss them terribly.  But having gone through another day that slaps me in the face, I realize the miracle of having found joy again in little things in life that happen every day.  And that brought me joy to know I have entered the grief phase of acceptance even though the sadness remains.  Awesome memories keep them alive.

I have survived the awful grief phases . . . and that has become my everyday miracle.

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Agree to love

 

"To love, my brothers and sisters, does not mean we have to agree. But maybe agreeing to love is the greatest agreement. And the only one that ultimately matters, because it makes a future possible."

Bishop Michael B. Curry These words are so true. Disagreements have affected relationships in my life.  What happened to the days when we disagreed and did not talk about it.  Just drop it.  You believe what you believe and I believe what I believe. It used to be - don't talk about religion or politics. Everyone is all of a sudden so sensitive. What has happened to our society?

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Positive anything and everything

 

Positive anything is better than negative nothing.

Elbert Hubbard

The world around you looks so much better when you think positively.  Recently my life changed drastically because of the way I have changed my way of thinking.The saying "don't worry about what you can't change" describes another change I've made in my thinking.  Of course that is within reason.  There are reasonable things we will always worry about.There have been times in my life when I was thinking that everything was negative which led to a great deal of unhappiness.  In general, my negativity changed nothing and I could have thought positively and experience happiness.  It is all a mindset. We may not be able to control outcomes, but we can somewhat control how we feel.My grief has entered a new phase.  Good and happy memories are what I think about and it brings on smiles instead of tears.Negativity causes pain and I choose not to go there.

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